Hi Pat,
I have a Valient heater installed, which also had diaphram problems, it had stretched and needed replacement.
I took photographs of mine, with the cover off, and sent them to Valient, they were a little surprised any were still in use at it turned out to be the first model they made! the diaphrams for mine were not avaiable, but they sent me some almost the same, all I needed to do was punch a couple of new holes to fit them, since then perfect…I had quite a few sent to me, they are on the boat and I am in the UK or I would send some to you. As to the water pressure I am not able to help, mine works fine using the galley pump.
Mike